In a matter of three weeks, I have lost family and friends all because I finally decided to come out.
Had I known coming out would make me even more lonelier than I already was, I wouldn't have done it. They say it gets better, but honestly, I just don't know about that.
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Awe it might lead to more opportunities to meet new people though since you can be yourself!
You shouldnt want those toxic people in your life anyway
Things WILL get better. If they cannot accept you for being the same you you have always been, then it’s on them. Reach out to ppl here, we love you ❤️
I mean if anyone decides whethet they like someone based on if they’re gay or not, black/asian/white/etc, religous/spiritual/none of the above is a lonely pathetic human being anyway and I personally would prefer NOT to associate with them. You’re better off, just put yourself out there with new accepting people
Woah dude, that’s some rough shit. How long has it been since you came out? Maybe it just needs more time.... try not to trip about it and get your gay on with some homies
people who are like "you shouldn't associate with people like that", he did blog saying friends AND family. You can't tell someone that they shouldn't associate with their family or that they shouldn't want those people in their lives. It's literally his family.
Anyway friends, you can always make new ones. Hopefully your family comes around.
Oh and how old are you? If you are young, just know that family can be worst than friends. I learned that a young age. Losing friends isn’t that big of a deal. I rock with a small circle in real life anyway because you know who is really there for you. Start focusing on yourself and making sure you are good and happy. Don’t wait for it to get better. Make it better. Fuck them and do what you do. Period ✊🏾
I am deeply sorry about that.
I am not of the LGBT community myself, but I have family that are very strict christians and it is hard to see them so set in their ways, and I question how easily they can judge and hate people when they are supposed to love all people.
I hope it gets better for you :/ Now that you are yourself a whole bunch of doors have opened up and I am sure you will meet some amazing people.
coming out is great long term but not short term. It's way hard at first but then u realize u don't need the people who don't accept u. It does get better but the beginning period after u come out is always hardest, just don't give up
Turney1805 I am sorry you are going through this.
Made me think of this:
People make coming out seem like this magical thing but it's not always. I tried to come out but was told I'm wrong and it's a phase, I'll get over it.
Just know that you have a community here who care about you. If you want to talk anything, my inbox is open.
that sounds awful im sorry to hear their reactive was so negative! :( ik we dont really talk but if you ever feel lonely or want some random chats and company feel free to mail me anytime! :) ik it seems right now it doesnt get better but i think any negative situation or time in our lives do eventually get better and it makes you one hell of a strong person after <3
This is why I’ve personally deliberated on coming out but all I can say is, give it time. I know it’s difficult but let your family process this new info, come to terms with it and make peace with it. Sometimes we forget these people have lived X many years thinking one way, it is going to seem unnatural and shocking to them to accept an alternative. I only say show this patience to family, your friends on the other hand need updating if this is how they responded
every situation is different, only YOU know your friends and family... it might take them some time to digest or they might just flat out not accept it
You shouldnt want those toxic people in your life anyway