This is going to be my only blog on the matter, but I want to share my story. If anyone ever goes through this type of situation, please try and get out of it as soon as you can. So, for those who aren’t sure, I did make a blog yesterday to call me and ghrocky100#Alace and not #Gralex because we don’t associate with cheaters. I will say yes, maybe it came off very petty but let me explain why I took it as far as I did. I could have just said, “Oh just call us #Alace and not #Gralex.” I mentioned cheater was because a few days ago, my good friend Fistiona made a pyn blog. In that blog, she told him that, “He upset my girl.” Then he mailed her asking who the girl was. Then several weeks ago, my other good friend Fetish made a pyn blog, and on that blog, she commented at him with, “Yes you know what you did.” Then he mailed her asking about it. That comment was because I ended up getting to a point in my life where I was finally able to tell what happened to my friends. To me it seems like he did not care enough to acknowledge the damage he did to me because of his actions. Not only that’s how I felt, but that along with the Gralex name being used a lot opened up an unhealed wound that was never cured due to lack of closure of the situation and no remorse from Alex. I even wondered why this upset me as much as it did and realized it was because of those two reasons. Today, I am creating my closure by writing this, and I hope you, Alex can understand, so you can grow and learn from this.
Cheeseman2468, you definitely cheated on me. Do I think you dated anyone at the same time as me? No. But do I know/think you were flirting and talking to other girls while you were with me? Yes. There have been a couple situations where you did that. You literally BROKE UP with me because you wanted to date the girl you took to prom. Sure, the distance and us not being able to see each other were factors, but it was NOT the reason like you tried to claim. Also, for you to say you broke up with me after not being able to see me, hun we literally got back together the day after it happened, so you basically led me on. Also, I heard from several girls that you flirted with about actually driving to them, but then when it came to me you used your dad as an excuse. The fact you left me sooo quick for her SHOWS that you were definitely talking to her. I was fine with you taking her as a friend since I trusted you, but anything more than that was an issue with me. Lets also talk about the fact you literally told me 4 days before my birthday you were planning to leave me for her. Instead of breaking up with me there, you continued to lead me on. I could have broken things off there, but I didn’t because of the fact I had gotten dumped the day before my birthday before (not the guy’s fault btw). I did not want a repeat, and YOU KNEW that happened to me. Then a couple days after you broke up with me, you got all sad a different girl on your soccer team didn’t like you.
This is not the only situation where cheating took place. I do think that two week period between my birthday and you leaving me, you were talking to other girls because you stopped calling me and kept making up excuses that your throat was hurting and you were too sick to talk even though you were still going to school every day and seemed fine the ONE TIME we did call during that time period. Then when I confronted you here, you tried guilt tripping me then a couple days later, you told me you got diagnosed with strep throat. That was 100% a lie because when I asked you what else was wrong with you to make you that sick, you told me, “Oh I had a nasty cough,” which is NOT strep throat. Then the next day, I asked you how your day was going, and you told me you went shopping and about to play soccer. I know what strep is, so I knew that was a lie. Let me also say that during this time, my gut and intuition strongly felt some bullshit was going on and the really bad energy had me depressed af. Back in the beginning of our relationship, I did catch you flirting with a girl from tg (I’m not gonna say who it is. I’ll let her speak on it if she wants). You told her stuff like you wanted to start something real with her, joked about marrying her, etc. Then when I confronted you about the situation, you said, “Oh I’m just very flirty, but I’ll stop if you want me to.” And also I remember you would always randomly bring up in our conversations, “Oh if I find someone irl, I’ll let you know”, but there was this one situation specifically where you told me that, and then asked me if it happened could we fake our relationship on tg, so YOU didn’t look like an asshole. You would also constantly repeat to me in conversations, “Oh I stopped talking to other girls” which to me makes me think it was you trying to push me away from thinking anything. Another reason I believe you were cheating on me was it was very interesting to me how you would get overly jealous of and threatened maturo when he would make troll blogs about me, but you were allowed to flirt with other girls. I would tell you Joe was trolling and to not take him seriously since he was dating his ex at the time. You literally came for him after you were telling me you were going to leave me. A couple months prior to that, you threatened to attack him on the blogs page for "flirting with me" when he blogged about me. I think you only did that to cover your own ass up from me catching you cheating.
Alex after you left me, my self esteem and confidence was destroyed. I felt absolutely worthless, felt I didn’t deserve a good relationship, and feared love. I think that you only dated me to use me as your second option when you didn’t have another girl to go to. Not only was I already going through other things, but the damage you created hit me the hardest. What’s even worse is that I didn’t realize how toxic our relationship was until I got out of it and did some reflection. I started working on my mental health and stopped feeding into the toxicity. Then eventually a couple months ago, I got to a point in my life where I was able to block you on social media, and I felt so much freedom after doing that. I don’t plan on unblocking you anytime soon. I see your apology blog to me, but I cannot accept. I just don’t think it’s genuine because of the fact you were calling me manipulative to my friends this morning and then 15 min later turning around to make an apology blog. And you literally SPAMMED your blog yesterday just to bring me down worse. Also, I don’t see how you forget how you break up with someone. That there just screams you never cared about me because that excuse is absolute bs. I think you are trying to play the victim card here when you’re not which is why I provided screenshots. I think you are extremely manipulative and immature which is something I don’t need in my life at all. Before I can accept an apology, I need you to understand, learn from this, and grow up. I will eventually forgive you, but it will take time, and I will be using that time to continue healing with the amazing guy I’m with now. That is all I got fam, sorry for the long ass blog, but I feel sooo much freedom finally being able to talk about this after feeling trapped about it for sooo long.
im sorry you had to go through this... and were not able to realize how toxic this was until after HE broke up with YOU!!! You should've ended that waaaaay sooner!!! Every single thing he did was major red flag!!!!
i'm glad you're in a much better place now with someone new!!
and from his blogs i do think he's genuinely trying to apologize to you, but he does need to own up to more of what you put in this blog
i hope you guys can at least get some closure and bury the hatchet now..
Glad that you are able to stand up for yourself and sharing your side. Hope that you're able to find closure on the situation now and move on with your very happy relationship!
I know how long you’ve wanted to say something but you stayed mature and kept it to yourself all this time. I like cheeseman but I don’t think he had the capacity to love you the way that you deserved to be loved and I’m glad you’re both finding your own happiness now
Wow, I'm so sorry you experienced all of this. I am sure you went through an emotional roller coaster to say the least. Unfortunately, it looks like Cheeseman2468 handled the situation poorly and just was very emotionally immature (and really didn't seem to know what he wanted or expected I suppose; but it was no excuse for him to use and manipulate you). I know he probably meant to do no harm, he simply did.
As others have mentioned, I hope you're now able to get much needed closure from the situation. At least you're able to look back on the situation and hold your head up high since you spoke your truth. I just hope he's able to learn from this and take responsibility. Best of luck to you with your current relationship pinkiepie512!
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