I think it was really hard for everyone all around and everyone copes and reacts differently. I am so so so sorry for your loss and can’t imagine what you went through
But I do not think Johnny had ill intentions though - he has just found out his old friend died, and for me, no matter if I haven’t checked in on them in 1 day or 3 years, if I found out one of my old / high school friends passed away I would still be sad. Since this site was Johnnys connection to her, it’s completely reasonable that he blogged about it. I don’t think he was trying to make it about him until he got unfairly attacked - he was sad about his friend and got kicked while he was down
Maybe he could have read the room and messaged you directly but also maybe people could be a little more compassionate all around ❤️ Nothing but love tho
"If it took you 16 months to realize she was no longer alive, maybe you should reflect on how you treat your friends and what a friend really is."
You can be close to someone without talking to them every day, you asshole. I'm not here saying that maybe YOU should look at why she left you and moved out of the damn country to get away from you, because I don't know your fucking situation. She didn't talk about other people because that wasn't important.
We called whenever something major happened in our lives, or whenever else we needed to.
It's fucking CRUEL that you would say that because I didn't talk to her every day that she didn't matter to me. It's CRUEL that you would make anyone who was close to her find out so much longer after the fact. You didn't get to pick and choose who was close to her and who wasn't and who got to find out.
It feels HORRIBLE to find out that long after. You had time to grieve. It is literally 12 hours after finding out and you're choosing to attack someone who is completely and utterly devastated by it and claiming its for Ts and clout. You are disgusting. Clearly YOU didnt know her all that well either if you didn't know who she was friends with.
The thing that is throwing me off is how was it YOUR place to make the information public? I’m confused by this statement. Did other people not matter enough to break the news? imo if it’s been 16 months and nobody’s said anything it should be kept private but it’s weird that you’re gatekeeping HER death
It wasn't your place to decide who deserved to know this information and who didn't. It's like if an old high school friend died and no one found out because their family decided it shouldn't be public knowledge, it doesn't work like that.
And when will it be time to tell people? It's been 16 months. I get that the grieving process is the same for everyone but at one point you might want to look into getting professional help if you've still not come to terms with it. This just feels like you made a selfish decision because you didn't want anyone to ask you questions about the situation and then scapegoating Johnny and making him out to be the worst person ever when even though he is, he also should be given the chance to grieve, just like you did (or didn't apparently).
They're all acting like obituaries are only for people in the real world, and that somehow people online who interacted with her for years on end don't matter and didn't deserve to know.
Sometimes people grow apart because they move on in their lives and things happen and life gets in the way. That doesn't mean in the slightest that you stopped caring about them. Deciding that those people weren't important enough to know literally breaks me.
I’m sorry for your loss but here’s the thing! Kels divorced you which tells me she didn’t want you speaking for her while she was alive why should you get to speak for her in death? I’ve been friends with some of these ppl for 10 years now and if they died I would want to know! You don’t get to decide who grieves and in what way!
You people don’t know what you’re talking about and you don’t know mine and Kels relationship so I’m not going to engage in it. But somehow everyone else instinctively that knew her or is Facebook friends knew to come to me privately so 🤷♂️ I also don’t understand how you can say that I “made people not find out.” You had access to the information if you were “friends” with her so again 🤷♂️
aquamarine I’m not being funny but how can you say he’s cruel for saying what he’s said, but in the same breath say SHE LEFT THE COUNTRY TO GET AWAY FROM YOU!!! wtf was that necessary
he kind of has valid points, you guys were friends on Facebook, it took you a year and a half to realise she had passed. how is that his fault ... it wasn’t being hid from you
Lmao "you can be close to someone without talking to them every day". You clearly haven't spoken to her in 16+ months... aquamarine . At least show the guy ( holder) some damn respect. Cause he's right. You nor does anyone KNOW their relationship
Life is too short to even be arguing about something like this. This goes to both sides. Let's not make her passing an argument on who should have told who and informed who.
Hopefully everyone is able to cope and grieve in their own way.
Ironically enough, if this had been kept off the blogs page none of this drama would be happening........
I’m very sorry that your grief isn’t acknowledged and people are so determined to make themselves important in Kels’ life that they get offended that you wanted her privacy to remain private. Love you Holder
im so sorry for your loss, i wish this situation was handled better all around i think it's a lot of miscommunication unfortunately :/
there's no need for some of these nasty comments for sure
what matters is that kels was a great person who has a lot of people that cared for her and that her memory is respected. while we weren't close she always had a kind word and was one of the users i looked up to the most as a kid when i joined this site. RIP.
I am so sorry for your loss :( thinking of you 🙁 she was a beautiful person inside and out, not to mention a badass in games and in life. She was one of a kind. She’d want us to remember all the fun, happy memories we shared 💕
I do not understand how it is your place to determine when or where her death news could be shared. I did not know her personally other than a few emails we exchanged about songs many years ago. Wishing you well in dealing with her loss
Why is it your place to determine if someone can reveal someone's death? Many people lose connections online, but if he just found out and is sad about it, he has the right to mention it and grieve. smh
It’s quite unfortunate this has happened. Aquamarine isn’t a real friend of hers and more so an acquaintance considering it took him 16 months to learn she had passed away.
Honestly I’m appalled he’s trying to turn this into some kind of Twitter beef like just admit you are wrong.
This whole situation is so messy. I’m so sorry you are still grieving with this loss. I think because she was friends with people from tg on her socials, regardless of it being someone like aquamarine who is holding onto childhood memories from years ago even though he hasn’t spoken to her in years, it doesn’t matter. If you become friends with tengagers on your socials that feel the need to discuss events like this, that’s their prerogative as they have access to news about their life - at that point it’s not a secret. Now would I ever share this info to tg, probably not. But everyone is different. Just know you have people that are here for you
Both of us are angry at the situation and have gotten too personal over someone we both cared about.
Thank you everyone who has voiced support for both me and Holder here. Kels was very special to both of us in very different ways.
Clearly everything there is to be said on this matter is said. If you want to mail either of us trashing the other, go ahead. I stand by my opinion that her and her friends needed the closure of my blog. In all my years on this website I have never felt so completely devastated. I know some people went through this with each other 16 months ago. I think expecting people to quietly grieve alone after the fact is unfair.
The point is a great person is gone. I’m by no means a great person myself. But my intention was always only to share this with the people who once knew her.
I am sorry for increasing your pain through this, and I’m sorry if I’ve done anything outside of this incident to ever cause someone pain over losing a loved one or friend.
This is the last I will ever say on this.
Thank you for the memories. 💔
