Since we have to realize a lot of the OG drama between a lot of people comes from betrayals in games. How long do you hold grudges for people who lie to you in games? For me I just let it go, and don't take it personal but it's a big deal to some of y'all. Let's discuss.
If they are a friend and they lie to me I do take it personally, but that is because I value friendship over a win - even in a game. I would respect a friend more if they were up front and honest with me from the start of a game and told me that it was "every man for himself".
I want to say that I understand that betrayal from friends suck, but you guys are kind of getting to the point I want to get to with this blog. Can't people just say after the game, "Hey I lied, I think you are a good friend, but understand we were playing a game, and that's what I had to do to win"? I mean if you play board games with friends they might give you disadvantages as part of the game. It's not supposed to be malicious.
I have gone into games with friends with an understanding that we were going "head to head" and both were Ok knowing that it wasn't personal. If a friend agrees to work together and have my back then screws me over - I don't consider that something to be taken lightly. If we are close enough friends then they can come to me before hand and say "every man for himself". It is about respecting the friendship tbh. Game is game.
tbh my best friends on here have been people who have screwed me over in games (before we were friends) and after the game we have just clicked and become good friends.
me2013 I think that is the appropriate thing to do. Go in saying hey. I value what we have, but just know I am here to win. That is what I would do or want someone to do to me. However, if they ask for forgiveness would you ever forgive them? I get you are justified in feeling betrayed, but when does the moving on start? I feel like people on here just collect hate and don't let it go often enough. It's important to always be cautious to people who abided trust, but it seems like some people get dealt life sentences of hate.
Moving on is easy, forgiveness is easy, but they lose my respect and my trust, and tbh without those two things is it really still a friendship?
I can move on, game is game, but honestly this is an online environment and it is hard enough to build a solid relationship with people in the first place, I am not sure many real relationships can last without mutual respect and trust.
I don't hate anyone for betraying me in a game, but attack me personally and that is a line that should never be crossed. I think that on here - that is more of an issue.
me2013 ugh I know I hate to see all the personal attacks. It's such a shame. I think you bring up fair points, and I see what you mean about losing respect. I would question the priorities of someone who just tosses friends aside for personal gain, but what if you realized that person just made that mistake once and learned from it, and this would probably take a long time of character analysis to asses, would you ever respect them again?
Depends how long I have known them I guess, and how genuine they really are. Every case is different, and tbh, it should be something discussed out of the public eye. I have a lot of time for people who are honest and respectful towards me as a person, and I believe that goes both ways. At the end of the day I don't think a game should (or would) come between "real" friends.
@supahero LOL yes. If I know them and how they play, I usually want them as an ally. Otherwise, they will see me as a possible threat because they know how I play compared to someone else.
