I'm going to make this quick and to the point. I have debated for a while posting this and just feel like it is the right time.
You know the saying for Tengaged: "gay until proven straight". Well, since I've started on this site, I portrayed being a straight white male from the UK. As some of you already know, that is not the case (the straight part).
I am bi! It's not easy growing up in central UK unless you are a straight white male. I dated girls throughout high school and college to "fit in". Now, I was generally attracted to them and I still do like certain types of girls but in not so much a sexual way. I have always liked guys though. Recently, due to quarantine and other factors, I have been able to do a lot more positive self-reflecting and thinking. I really do have some amazing friends on this site that I have been able to talk to them about this and explain my own situation and have them give their advice and thoughts. It has helped me grow so much as a person over these past few months.
As if that wasn't enough...my real name is not James/Ja(v)mes :O
I know this is probably more of a shocker but my real name is Pablo! (Most of my friends call me Pabs). I chose James when i first started because I was unsure of posting my personal information on a public website. I quickly saw that people had their jobs called and families notified when they evicted someone in a frookies or told someone they were stupid. I was not going to risk that happening to me. After awhile, i debated telling the truth but never thought it was necessary. I still don't think it is, but I figured since I am opening up about myself that I should just let it be known.
Anyways, I still have a long journey ahead of me because I still live in the UK and I know my family would not be accepting of this. They'd still love me but their comments over the years have suggested otherwise. It's going to take time, but right now is not it. I am positive about it though and know everything will work out!
I'd like to give a special thanks to the following people who have listened to me vent and/or also given me advice. I truly appreciate each of you and you don't realize how much it has impacted me!
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As if that wasn't enough...my real name is not James/Ja(v)mes :O
I know this is probably more of a shocker but my real name is Pablo! (Most of my friends call me Pabs).
I know this is probably more of a shocker but my real name is Pablo! (Most of my friends call me Pabs).