My grandfather is getting remarried today, and he’s 78. He’s marrying a woman 30 years younger than him, this is her 4th marriage. We lost my grandmother 4 years ago. We were all incredibly close to her, she was the center of the family. They are making a huge spectacle of it, with hundreds of people invited. My mom was asked to stand at the alter and I feel like I’m going to breakdown when I see this lady walking down the aisle and my mom having to be up there. I’m I selfish for not even wanting to go? For thinking this is crazy?
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I think the most important thing is that you are supporting your grandfather because he's marrying someone that makes him happy and that's moving on. You being there and everyone else being there is going to make him extra happy on his day.
He’s marrying a 50 year old? I would say you’re 100% entitled to the way you feel should act in whatever way you will be able to stand by going forward. I think your grandpa also has a right to be happy and be remarried if that’s what he chooses especially at his age. If I was in your shoes I think I would be just as upset. Personally I think, if you have a good relationship with your grandpa, you should go. You don’t need to sing their praises but I think it’s a nice gesture to be there for someone you do love on such a big day. Good luck either way 💛
I don't think it's selfish for not wanting to go. Especially since it sounds like your Grandma was an important part of your life. At the end of the day, you can't help how you feel. But I also really agree with this part of FlashWood's comment:
"Personally I think, if you have a good relationship with your grandpa, you should go. You don’t need to sing their praises but I think it’s a nice gesture to be there for someone you do love on such a big day"
I think you are entitled to feel however you wish about it. It sounds shady. I’d probably feel some type of way as well if I was in your shoes and I’d still go because I think he deserves to have y’all there for him.
I think your feelings are very valid and it’s going to be difficult for you all, nothing will ever fill the hole your grandmother has left in your grandfathers life but he can either choose to be lonely and unhappy or he can carry on and your support will mean the world to him. My dad died a few years ago and I know I will feel this way if my mum ever meets anyone new, but I’m going to have to force my feelings away to support her and allow her to carry on because I know how lonely and unhappy she is right now. Such a difficult situation and I really feel for you and your family 😢 but no, you aren’t selfish or crazy, just human 🩶
Hunni if i was 80 id be doing anything and everything b4 i pass on. + doesn't seem like he's trying to replace your grandmother. he just doesnt want to live his years out alone
multiple things can exist together. what you’re feeling about it is valid, as well as his desire for new love is valid. hope you enjoyed the wedding atleast a bit! <3
