I've been playing a Big Brother group game hosted by TheRoseHorse.
For weeks two players have been using offensive language in our group skype chat.
I left it alone for a while and tried not to get involved.
However, I find the C-word sexist and repulsive.
Finally, I decided that I would just let them know it was making me uncomfortable, and I was pretty sure they would stop.
Unfortunately, they didn't.
They continued to use that type of language in the group chat, and other players began reminding them that they were making me uncomfortable and that I was offended, but they STILL continued.
I want to say right now that regardless of your intentions if you say something and another person is offended, THEY ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL THAT WAY.
People's feelings are valid.
One person, in particular, escapethenight13, went on to call me a drama queen for even bringing it up.
Having a reaction to a historically offensive word is not being a drama queen.
Continuing to use offensive language in public spaces after someone has asked you nicely to say it in a private chat if you must continue using it, is disgusting. Grow up.
I will not be bullied and harassed because I don't want to continue hearing use the C-Word in a skype chat.
If you agree with me, or stand by me, please give me a comment showing your support.
escapethenight13 joking or not, if you are speaking to one person in a group chat, everyone can see it. If you feel the need to continually offend others because you can't keep your "jokes" in a separate chat, you are part of the problem.
escapethenight13 You don't even realize how hypocritical you sound. You publically offended me over and over, and I asked you to please stop. I have every right to publically share how hurt I am. Marginilized identities are often spoken about publically by people who don't listen to their feelings. If I were you, I would start listening more and talking less, because there are more important voices than mine that need to be heard, especially recently. You're walking a dangerous line and I genuinely hope you can educate yourself.
mleg you seem to need education i have rights to say whatever i fucking want and have my own opinion. You couldve spoke to me instead of making it public here. Instead of making it public in the main chat of roses. And tangaged sees this because u are scared to confront me privately
Ok. I'm gonna step in right now and say this.
Johnny, I say this as a friend. Yes, you do have rights to say what you want, but she also has rights to say what she wants.
She asked you to stop the first time it happened, and it continued. She tried to be nice about it.
Just calm down and take a minute and don't say something you might regret later.
Unlike my Skype group, this is a public blog where anyone can read this.
Therosehorse im just mad that she makes her problems public so people can dislike me and people can feel sorry for her when im doing absolutely nothing wrong
I’m right here with you! Its important to remember that whether it’s a joke or not, intentional or not, words have consequences. You can never know what someone has experienced and gone through. You have the right to say what you wish AS LONG as you are not causing harm. And you went about this very well and I stand by you and support you 1000000%
Well ahea7561 you and everyone else dont actually know what happened. She wanted me to not evict her in a game and when i was truthful about me voting her she got mad and made that, which happened about a month ago, public. Shes dramatic.
@escaperhenight13 when someone says something that makes them uncomfortable you don’t get to say they are dramatic, because you don’t live their experience. You have no right to police how someone feels and from what I’ve been reading there was an attempt to handle it respectfully. Think about your language because I’m sure there are words you are either triggered by or are not comfortable with hearing
ahea7561 maybe you should get out of this she clearly didnt care about it much until i told her i was evicting her. Get out of this when u know nothing. Thank you.
Is it bad that she's lesbian? You say it like its a term to badly describe her. You should reevaluate how you speak about people because it doesn't come off as anyone wanting to read your rant that you spammed to get top blog
allisonescapethenight13 in situations where I defeated and upset I like to describe myself in ways that empower me, it helps me feel strong. I don’t understand why you’re arguing johnny. Im not trying to “look like a victim”, I’m just looking to find a little support because the way you’re acting towards me is wrong.
"Well i will continue using the c word as it is not a problem to me. So stop being dramatic and making shit public"
i personally believe that if mleg finds it offensive, you shouldn't refer to them as that. if you choose not to, that just makes you a mean person. if you don't find the word offensive, you can continue to use it, just please don't use it about or towards someone who does.
that's just my opinion on the situation, as i believe regardless of whatever your talking about someone, if they don't like to be called/told that you shouldn't call or tell them that. i don't know everything that's going on between you all, but that's just my outside input.
(no hate towards anyone involved, i just don't think you should call anyone anything they don't like to me called, regardless of the situation)
Escapethenight13 I didn’t say you used that word. In fact, I technically didn’t say anything about you. I just said you shouldn’t be made fun of for not liking something, especially if it offends you.
Nanonerd just wanted to say noone made fun of what she said. I just stated what i felt about making me seem like a victim by making her issues public. She should have spoke to me. This happened a month ago and when i told her i had to evict her in my group game, she then made this public. She is just mad, wants a top blog, and wants people to dislike me in return for me evicting her.
escapethenight13 I’m not bitter, I was fine with being evicted. There are no subliminal messages here, I did my best to be very direct. I don’t like it when you or anyone says the word “cunt” and I would appreciate it if you didn’t use that word around me, including in a group chat I am a part of. It makes me uncomfortable, I don’t like it, I’ve asked more than once. I’m a preschool teacher so I tend to see teachable moments and try to take advantage of them. It’s clearly not working here. Im sorry that you don’t see your fault in this, and I’m sorry you’re upset it’s public. The fact of the matter is this whole site is public, those skype chats were public, and you signed up for simulated reality TV games so you should have known it could easily be made public. Just stop now.
in my post i literally say "i don't know everything that's going on between you all, but that's just my outside input."
i don't know what's going on. i clearly state that. regardless of who called who whatever, i don't agree with calling someone something they find offensive. wether you did or not, i don't know. thats why i never blamed anyone of anything. don't accuse me of taking sides when i quite literally explain that i'm not because i don't know the full story.
Totally agreed . Host need to take action when people can’t be mature enough to watch their mouths. I will say theres totally a men against women problem on this site tho. Its gross.
I played one game with escapethenight13, and he is not the kind of guy that’s gonna try and harass someone or hurt someone for no reason. He’s a good guy! If you have a problem with him, I truly feel as if it’s a misunderstanding, and it is unjustified.
