i dont even know if its a real thing but i took some tests and read some shit for fun and have discovered i'm apparently extremely demi-sexual which explains a fucking lot to me and how i really dont view sex the way everyone else does and get so incredibly uncomfortable with someone trying to make advances when i'm nowhere near ready and then i panic ad fucking BOLT to protect myself
i doubt anyone here (or any other girls for that matter) can relate but if you can feel free to message me
I always related to it but idk I also kind of feel like it's a made up thing. I don't think it's that abnormal to not be attracted to someone until you connect with them emotionally
It's confusing to me because for some reason I put so many important "checklists" for sex. And if something is skipped or missing, and often men advance WAY too quickly for me which makes me panic and run far far away from them.
I dont think its too unusual; its known i'm an extremely emotional person, my first responses to any and everything is emotions and feelings before reason and logic.. so its not that far out of the question but I still am not sure if its a real thing or not... but it makes so much sense to me.
I thought everyone wanted a connection emotionally and not just phsyically before they have sex. I would never be able too. Thinking of hooking up with people that i dont trust emotional scares the shit out of me. There's gotta be some sort of connection there. But now I don't feel *as* odd because everyone in my life loves talking about sex and im just like "meh"
Shayybayy of course <3 I think a lot of terms are created because enough people feel that way and it plays a role in their lives so if it's a term you connect to and something that helps you with understanding yourself and how you approach situations then that's great. Like that's how I feel about being an empath for example - whether or not it's a real thing, I connect to it enough and it's helped me understand myself enough that I use it to describe myself
And yeahhh I agree. I have hooked up with people who I didn't have an emotional connection with but I was never into it and it always made me feel weird - like there was something unnatural about me. I've learned since that it takes me awhile to feel safe around someone and I need that sense of security in order to be comfortable with sex. I'm not sure how much of that has to do with being on the asexuality scale (I think demisexual is part of being on the asexuality scale) and how much of it is because of my past trauma, but I think I originally liked the demisexual description since I so rarely just felt attracted to random people/characters on screen until I knew them emotionally but once I do feel that attraction, I'm very sexual - definitely not ace
But anyway, if it makes sense to you and it helps you identify then you should use it
