If you regret motherhood, wear a flipping condom on your private parts the next time you have sex so you don't dare bring another inconvenience into the world. There are some people who can't have kids or have a lot of trouble having them, so it pisses me off when people whine about how lucky they are to be able to have kids! People like me who desperately want children, but doesn't know if I can have any due to a medical condition beyond my control are quite sensitive to the fact that some people hate children despite having one or many. If you don't want the kid you were responsible for making, give it up for adoption or put it in the system and then go on your merry way.
Having kids is a very important responsibility and the whole concept of having kids involves making choices that could easily be avoided by not having sexual relations. Unfortunately, the world we live in today encourages people to have sex for pleasure at any given moment, but that same world does not explain the responsibilities that come with having sex. Sex is quite simple and people do it every day, but sex does have potential consequences such as getting pregnant and some people have the nerve to simply get abortions to deal with pregnancies because they don't want the responsibility of a kid.
If you personally don't want or cannot handle the responsibility of a kid, there are many out there who would be willing to adopt or foster the kid. To murder a living thing simply because it is not wanted by you takes the opportunity away from others who would be willing to give it the love it deserves. I get that things happen that make pregnancies unviable and that's unfortunate, but at least the parents are in the state of mind of wanting and they will be blessed for wanting even if they cannot have right away. Those who have and do not want that blessing so much that they make the choice to get it may not have another chance to have a kid because God doesn't send His children to the Earth just to see them sent back by those entrenched in selfishness.
I have heard people explicitly say that parenthood is so hard because their children are severely disabled and burdens on them and their families. Guess what? If your disabled kid is such a burden to you, put it in a group home and get on with your normal life even though it might break the child's heart that they aren't seen as a gift and treated like a miracle. When God gives you a child or children with special needs, He believes that you are capable of handling that responsibility and He will help those who treat such an opportunity as a gift.
In this article, there are comments about how the women have no creativity, inspiration, or strength because they had kids. They talk about having children as being enslaved and how such enslavement makes them unhappy. The sad thing is that such parents probably treat their kids as burdens and that lack of love will definitely have an effect on the parent-child relationship as time goes on. When a child knows they are merely a burden on their parent, that child tends to learn self-reliance as they get older simply so they don't have to associate with someone who doesn't love them.
When love doesn't exist between a parent and child simply because the parent wishes that they could go back and erase the child, what right does the parent really have to ask for that child's love and attention? Sadly, this cycle can be generational because a child that feels unloved and unwanted by their parents never comes to know how valuable they are. In turn, these children grow up thinking that they are of little worth and that they don't have the energy or desire to make others, including any children they may have, feel of value.
People are given things and they don't appreciate them while people who desperately want things and would appreciate them aren't blessed with them. That is heartbreaking and how many parent-child relationships are damaged or destroyed because parents tell or show their child that they are an unwanted part of life? Having children is a responsibility, but it is a blessing that should be loved and cherished every day and not seen as a burden that limits people's ability to grow. Having kids is a chance to learn compassion, patience, and love for others besides yourself and I think all of us could do with learning those things and using them to become better than we already are.
