Not one person here is perfect, and there is a certain culture on most online platforms to bandwagon & tear someone down for their past actions. Everyone who is pained by something someone did is valid in their actions, but to use it to A) tear that person down indefinitely, B) make yourself feel better knowing that they’re “beneath” you, or C) remain stagnant and not allow yourself or the other person to grow is toxic. If for no one else than yourself. This is not directed at Bbdamian because I don’t think he meant his blog vindictively, but people are using the words in his blog for a mob mentality over something that, if dwelled on, only maintains the toxic narrative of stagnation. For those of you who find it necessary to partake in consistently reminding people how horrible they are (and I am no stranger to this, I have done this myself) you really aren’t helping the situation.
Humans like to think they are the final judgment of the sincerity and true worth of others, but we’re really not. If we put this energy into bettering ourselves or hoping for the betterment of others, maybe society wouldn’t be arguing over the same things we have been for decades and centuries.
In no way am I excusing my behavior or anyone’s, but deliberately bringing someone down, in any sense, when none of us truly know what’s going on in each other’s lives… take a moment of self-reflection and maybe ask ourselves, who the fuck do I think I am?
Between some recent personal issues and asking MYSELF that question I have actually felt a lot better. For a tengaged example: I even improved my relationship with Eilish when I realized he was just human and I was nastily bandwagoning and attacking him for things I had no business trying to live in the past over. It doesn’t take much to avoid hostility.
Have a lovely day tengaged.
Edit: and negging this blog is fine. I get it. Easy to do. But if you actually read this blog and understood what i’m saying and are still negging..congratulations this is about you and you are proving my point.
I really feel the Eilish part, i don't know Eilish yet i had this negative connotation of them from others and I've slowly let it all go watching them get mad over R2G for committing the crime of winning? And ruining a charity that had no reason to exist, for a R2G account that didn't even have people to help fill it? Nah, Eilish seems fine in my eyes.
If you don't let people grow, how are they supposed to become a better person? You guys don't want change, you want a target to harass and make yourselves feel better. You poke, and poke, and poke and then when they dare poke back you act vindicated and tell everyone they're still as awful as ever! Fucking toxic ass site, I'm sick of the bullshit.
