Is it bad that i lowkey feel kinda upset that my cousin didn’t ask me to be in his wedding party?
Backstory, this cousin is on my mom’s side and we’re only 6 months apart in age so we basically grew up together and had the closest relationship out of all of our cousins. We’ve been bros since day one, and always spent the summer together at our grandmas together, etc. We’ve also traveled to Italy twice together with a few of our family members. Even when we moved off to college, we didn’t get to see each other that often, but since our colleges were only an hour apart we still got to catch up every now and then and of course at family holidays. Basically we’ve always been close.
So now, my cousin gets engaged to his girlfriend about a month ago. They started planning the wedding/logistics pretty quickly and already have a date and venue set for late 2021. I honestly thought i would be in consideration for being his best man, but at the very least being a groomsman. I then eventually figured out I’m not in the wedding party at all since (a) i wasn’t invited to their engagement party at his fiancé’s house. At first i thought that was bc of covid and limited gatherings but there were a decent amount of people there and (b) him and his fiancé made their wedding website where they put their wedding registry, event details, etc and the bios of all the groomsman and bridesmaid were on there and obviously i wasn’t.
We’ve never talked about stuff like this explicitly growing up/in our teenage years because i thought it was a given. I ALWAYS planned on having him as one of my groomsman and maybe even my best man for when i get married.
I know this is kind of a weird subject but since i don’t many any older siblings/cousins/friends that have gotten married yet, I’m not really sure how weddings completely work 😅 but yea lmk if i should be at least a lil upset about this or not ~lol~
Oh u should be upset but I’ll let u in on a secret 99.9% of the wedding is always planned by the woman so if u aren’t in the wedding then it’s prob not his doing!
My cousin (female) is getting married on Sunday and it’s only her family that is getting invited to the wedding! Only the grooms parents will be there with 30 ppl on the brides side lol
