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Ok I need advice

Aug 26, 2018 by tharealmike
So I met this guy on my bday weekend (a little over a month ago) and we've been hung out/hooked up like 5/6 times since then, but I legit have no idea what he wants from me. Like he's very sexual over text and the sex is good, but we also like go on dates and have good convos/a lot in common. I'm kinda wanting something serious from him, but don't wanna scare him away. Should I just keep going with the flow or should I be upfront and ask him what he wants and risk being hurt by his answer?

Comments

For now just keep it as it is and during one of those conversations you have maybe steer it a little that way to test the waters. Make it a passing comment first before you lay down the law lol
Sent by Anas,Aug 26, 2018
you need to ask or else he'll assume its just casual sex and a fling. trust me i went through this
Sent by jenzie,Aug 26, 2018
I mean I would just continue to go with the flow till you can get a better read of what he wants. Especially if you enjoy hanging out with him / the sex anyways.
Sent by GothicZebra,Aug 26, 2018
I think you should be upfront and ask. If you'd be hurt by his answer now, you'll be more hurt later on when you're a lot more invested
Sent by holllyy1230,Aug 26, 2018
just get preg so he cant leave
Sent by levonini,Aug 26, 2018
if you keep doing this and you find out he wants to just hook up and not be exclusive, you'll be really sad. Find out soon.
Sent by Allison,Aug 26, 2018
Hey wanna hang out
Sent by AllieBoBallie,Aug 26, 2018
A mix of what GothicZebra and Allison said
Sent by Mexus,Aug 26, 2018
AllieBoBallie Bitch yes!! We actually need to sometime, esp now that im 21 and can actually get into bars now lol
Sent by tharealmike,Aug 26, 2018
tharealmike i would ask cause the paranoia / not knowing would make me feel worse than being sad if he鈥檚 only interested in sex. plus if you ask and he says he might want something serious then you are gaining! if he says no then i鈥檓 sure u have a laundry list of guys who will want to talk to you

hope you are doing good miss u!
Sent by RoboZoe,Aug 26, 2018
I'm in a similar predicament tharealmike minus like actual sex, he's hinted at wanting a relationship with me very subtly but like it's still not enough for me to be sure, and it just boggles my mind. I would be coy for a little longer, but that's just me, I'm not the type to make the move, if he wants something serious I think he'll be the one to drop the hint.
Sent by LiteCitrus,Aug 26, 2018
RoboZoe Thanks boo, I miss you as well! but I think you are right, like he's mentioned that he usually only does long-term things, but he could've also just been saying that idk.

LiteCitrus I'm the exact same way, I hate making the first move too, I always let someone else make the move, but yeah this guy has like hinted at it but not enough for me to really know, so I'm still staying a little guarded with him
Sent by tharealmike,Aug 26, 2018
tharealmike yeah let鈥檚 go get happy hour somewhere soon xo can鈥檛 wait
Sent by AllieBoBallie,Aug 26, 2018

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