I'm going to make this quick and to the point. I have debated for a while posting this and just feel like it is the right time.
You know the saying for Tengaged: "gay until proven straight". Well, since I've started on this site, I portrayed being a straight white male from Alabama. As some of you already know, that is not the case (the straight part).
I am gay! It's not easy growing up in central Alabama unless you are a straight white male. I dated girls throughout high school and college to "fit in". Now, I was generally attracted to them and I still do like certain types of girls but in not so much a sexual way. I have always liked guys though. Recently, due to quarantine and other factors, I have been able to do a lot more positive self-reflecting and thinking. I really do have some amazing friends on this site that I have been able to talk to them about this and explain my own situation and have them give their advice and thoughts. It has helped me grow so much as a person over these past few months.
As if that wasn't enough...my real name is not Steve/Ste(v)phen :O
I know this is probably more of a shocker but my real name is Scott! (Most of my friends call me Scotty). I chose Steve when i first started because I was unsure of posting my personal information on a public website. I quickly saw that people had their jobs called and families notified when they evicted someone in a frookies or told someone they were stupid. I was not going to risk that happening to me. After awhile, i debated telling the truth but never thought it was necessary. I still don't think it is, but I figured since I am opening up about myself that I should just let it be known.
Anyways, I still have a long journey ahead of me because I still live in Alabama and I know my family would not be accepting of this. They'd still love me but their comments over the years have suggested otherwise. It's going to take time, but right now is not it. I am positive about it though and know everything will work out!
I'd like to give a special thanks to the following people who have listened to me vent and/or also given me advice. I truly appreciate each of you and you don't realize how much it has impacted me!
aww i'm so glad you're finally comfortable enough to share this with everyone! i'm glad how close we've gotten and that you prance around with PRIDE with that alabama ass now
i don't think i could ever get used to calling you scotty though so i'll have to get used to "you know you can call me scotty now right?"
I'm so sorry to hear your struggle sjsoccer88 I myself come from a polish family where in Poland there is still no gay marriage and there is "no gay zones". I hope it works out for you and you keep fighting.
Congrats on coming out my dude, and I can totally relate to you on a few levels, despite having my coming outs (name, sexuality, etc.) in my own life. If you ever need a listening ear, my DMs are always open! <3
I've only known you for a few months and so I assumed you were gay and also I only call you SJ so this isnt a shock or adjustment to me, but I am really happy for you that you are comfortable with yourself and ready to share with the world. I hope your family is accepting as well when you are ready to tell them. <3
I love this! Congrats on being able to come out on the site and i feel you about being hesitant to come out irl my family also makes comments that make me think they wouldnt accept me so you’re not alone ❤️
+ this is a big and important step. I definitely get the family issues first hand, and even though we don’t speak, always willing to listen if you need!
congrats on this new step Scott! everything will get better from now on and even if it took you so long, the universe always finds the right time for everything!
Ohh sorry for not been there to talk with you hun. I'm happy you can be like you want. And don't shut up nothing because what people thinks. Straight or gay you are awesome, and you know have this Spanish friend here anytime you need me OK? 😘 sjsoccer88
Awesome! You're such a wonderful person and I'm so happy for you! It takes a lot of courage especially since you clearly weren't dealt the best cards. It may still be an uphill battle from here, but one absolutely worth fighting for <3
