Is anyone else extremely self-conscious about their weight/appearance? Like i'm not ashamed to admit that I am slightly because everything i've seen in media says that you either have to be super skinny, super muscular or just super attractive as a gay man or else no one will even acknowledge you.
Am I the only one who feels this way? Or do other people also think that this is a heightened problem in the gay male community?
(I would also like to know if people of other genders or sexual identities think that this is a universal problem or if there is a heightened problem in gay males)
I'm a little self conscious honestly. There was a time when I had a flat stomach and looked great and toned but being busy and not being able to workout its gone a little. I'm by no means overweight, but because I don't have a flat stomach I feel like i'm judged in the community.
Yeah I'm gay and think I'm absolutely hideous. I've had enough relationships and sex to suggest otherwise but I still think it. I guess as long as there are hotter guys with better bodies out there I always will.
I don't, I think it comes from me taking shit from other people and I somehow got this super confidence. I think I'm attractive and I know someone else will too, simple as that.
It's a problem that I'm somehow impervious to. For as long as I can remember I've had a "fuck you your opinion is meaningless" attitude towards any negative opinion about me. I'm definitely outside the norm though, and do recognize that it's a problem a lot of people face.
I think this runs across all communities but from personal experience, I have always wanted a twink body, I just like the idea of being petite as a gay guy. However I have broad shoulders and a larger build, so there's not much i can do about it.
Genuinely I'm not. I like myself as I am. I know I'm overweight and it's obviously not the best thing in the world to be overweight but I feel sexy. I feel attractive. I'm comfortable in my own skin and no ones words can ever take that away from me. I am aware that social media likes to make the muscular and skinny guys as the "hot" thing. But to me I don't get into that. I like a bigger guy. I'd rather grab onto someone's curves than have my hands be able to grab there body like they are a twig. I'm afraid they will snap.
But anyway, I'm really not self-conscious about all of that. You have to love yourself for the way that you look or you will truly never be happy with yourself.
I think everyone struggles with this at some point in their lives, of all sizes
Sometimes I do cause I am overweight and it does suck knowing a good majority of society finds it repulsive, but I don't really see myself being skinny or toned tbh, plus I prefer my men on the chubby side myself. I think what's important is to just look how you want to look to be happy
Totally, i'm not overweight but 20 pounds underweight for a male who is supposed to be my age. Like I eat a lot and i've never gone to the gym but I might this summer when i'm not in school
I'm not made for everyone, personality and lookwise
I don't care about my body because I want guys who are similiar to me (budy any body type is fine really)
I care a lot about my face and dress though, even if they are simple. I like my face beat and my clothes to compliment me and my body and my life.
I would just rather find an open minded guy who loves me for me and my makeup addiction, rather than someone who, loving my body, is a big part of us. It doesn't work.
