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Time’s Best Mom Game R3

Nov 29, 2021 by Times_Places
YasGaga
Kindred7
peace123
buttercup13
cheritaisdelicious
boyfriend
Kiara_xoxo
Tryphena

Welcome all 8 of you to round 3! Last round was a mess tbh but I’m ready to go! Let’s get on with our next theme:

Round 3 - You’ve noticed something recently. My grades have been dropping and my emotions are a wreck. You also noticed that I’ve had some new friends stemming from a group that usually makes trouble. Based on assumption, you can tell that they’re peer pressuring me to do things I don’t feel comfortable with (mothers intuition). What advice can I get from this to get out of it? Or would you personally do something about it by talking to those “friends? The overall question is, what could you do?

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I feel like this question has unlimited answers. First we could sit down and talk about what's going on, no judgement whatsoever. Depending on what they're peer pressuring you into doing, my action would be a little different. If they're peer pressuring you into doing or selling drugs (last question for example), we would first talk about the kind of drug and why you feel like these people matter enough to make you do something you don't want to do. If it's not something we can come up with a solution for between the two of us, I would definitely take it to the group of friends. Who peer pressures in 2021? If they're peer pressuring they aren't your friends anyway.
If it's something else they're peer pressuring you into, like bullying someone, or committing a crime (stealing for example) I would hope this is something that can be solved by talking to you one on one. It really depends on what they're peer pressuring you into honestly. However, what is important here is that you recognize that you can talk to me about anything with no judgement
Sent by Buttercup13,Nov 29, 2021
I would probably set the tone us watching a show together for example where you are at ease then when it ends and you are comfortable I asked you questions about these “friends”. First asking for their names, how you met etc. then I prob say I noticed how uneasy you been feeling around them what do y’all do after school. (This part heavily depends on your response. I’m just going to plug in a random skipping school scenario) You tell me that you feel uncomfortable because you haven’t been attending all your classes. Your friends wants to leave early and hang out at the park. I explain what true friends are and that they will never make you uncomfortable, that real friends will listen and respect your opinions and if you don’t want to do something they never be upset with you. I will not badmouth your friends because that will trigger you to be defensive: I would  instead speak on what makes a friend a real friend to have you come to the conclusion yourself. I also would explain that it is no shame on saying the word “no” and tell you a story that happened to me. I want you to leave this conversation knowing what it means to have real friends. Afterwards we will continue watching tv or whatever but the following day I will check in with your school on attendance and nonchalantly tell you I’m picking you up after school one day for a doctor appointment this week without revealing the day as a back up. If necessary I would continue a part two convo asking about these friends to ensure you continue sharing your thoughts with me
Sent by Kiara_xoxo,Nov 29, 2021
I'm pulling a maxi and abandoning u this round I ain't ab to write full paragraphs like the other gyals
Sent by peace123,Nov 29, 2021
peace123 like yasgaga enter a cute sentence whatever u can be simplistic and still cover some ground LOOOL
Sent by Times_Places,Nov 29, 2021
mawmaw is giving u advice on how to cheat to get ur grades back up and im telling your friends u have aids so they stop being your friend. yas
Sent by YasGaga,Nov 29, 2021
because i'm a hacker girlboss i hack into your new friend's social media accounts and dig up as much dirt as i can find on them. once i've gathered enough information, i begin to blackmail them. slowly but surely, you notice these new friends who are bad influences starting to drift away...
Sent by boyfriend,Nov 29, 2021
ugh these are the reasons I don't have children. Start by asking if you wanna talk about anything. Listen if you do. Tell you that you are walking a dangerous line and might get into trouble. Say that I don't think your new friends are bad people, but that they are poor influences and you need to not cave in if you want to socialize.
Sent by cheritaisdelicious,Nov 29, 2021
as a step mom, i'd be like "you know you can talk to me about anything right?" but you'll reject it because i'm not your mom, who died but the accident wasn't your fault.
Sent by turkeylover,Nov 29, 2021
I'd positively gaslight u by saying ur better than this and that u have so much more potential than being a rat bitch. Then I'd get u the help u need to raise ur grades back up and be happy and responsible and amazing and iconic because ur my son and no matter what ur gnna be the moment darling.
Sent by peace123,Nov 29, 2021
First, I want you to feel secure in the family and loved. I'll make a point of spending time with you. This time will include a long car ride where teens generally feel safe talking to mom, because her eyes are on the road and not staring them down. I'll ask gently about certain people by name. Or I'll tell you a story out of the blue about a time I was peer pressured, and how I stood up for myself, trying to get you to open up. And if you do still have good friends, I'm gonna encourage you to bring them over and nurture those friendships.

The offer is on the table if you want to switch schools, or homeschool to get away from a bad peer group while also getting your grades up. If we don't want to go to such extremes, then we gotta make a plan on how to avoid these kids. If you want to drop a class that they're in, we can do that. There's always summer school.
Sent by Tryphena,Nov 29, 2021
Round 3 - You’ve noticed something recently. My grades have been dropping and my emotions are a wreck. You also noticed that I’ve had some new friends stemming from a group that usually makes trouble. Based on assumption, you can tell that they’re peer pressuring me to do things I don’t feel comfortable with (mothers intuition). What advice can I get from this to get out of it? Or would you personally do something about it by talking to those “friends? The overall question is, what could you do?

Umm well I’d first and foremost want to try to connect with you. Your friends aren’t likely to listen to me (unless I sense someone else who may be willing to want to not go down a bad path), so there’s no point in wasting my energy on them initially anyway. I think these are precarious situations bc depending on your mood, if I breach the subject too aggressively it could result in you closing off and not opening up to me and that would be extremely counterproductive.

Maybe I’d try to schedule more time to spend with you - just because parents don’t necessarily always have time to spend with their kids, and I think in this situation fortifying our relationship is an important first step. I want you to view me as a role model / friend / guardian, but still respect me. Even if you were kinda resistant to spending time doing things with me I would make you. I think a lot of times when someone is going down a route like this their judgment is clouded - going on hikes / getting fresh air / getting away from the internet and other people can help a lot. It helps give people perspective. So yeah I’d like focus on activities good for both our mental and emotional well-being and ones that I know you enjoy (or that you may come to appreciate, if not now maybe in the future). I think this would also just indirectly end up limiting your exposure to your bad influence friends too without it seeming forced. Maybe you’ll realize you don’t need to be with them, and maybe you’ll see you don’t even want to be around them.

Once I feel like we’re kinda in an optimal point, maybe after a few weeks, I’d approach the subject and see what’s going on - I guess I’d gauge which topic you’d be most open to discussing first (the friends or the grades) and go from there. I know this sounds cheesy AF but if there was a movie I could think of about just like loving yourself and not caring about others and being strong I’d also watch that together (BEFORE having any of this discussion). But yeah if the grades topic was what we approached first maybe we’d do it more like a “what’s our plan of attack” and maybe I’d spend extra time to ensure you focus on your studies bc this is time you won’t ever get back. And I guess if things keep slipping I would have to enforce some restrictions (like less time with your friends unless you can do decently on your tests, even if they’re not 100%). Eventually I’d wanna discuss your friends and find out what exactly they’re getting you involved in. I’d explain how that stuff can really destroy your life (whether it’s vandalism or drugs or sex or whatever) and there’s no easy rewind button once certain things happen (Eg STIs or addiction). I’d remind you to realize that you’re in such a fortunate situation and try to get you to volunteer somewhere (with or without me) every week so you can learn to appreciate the things you have and see for yourself that you don’t want to be around those people. I have always heard we are the sum of the five people we surround ourselves with, and so we should try our best to make sure they’re good hearted people. And I’d help you through leaving your friends - if you’re afraid of feeling lonely, I’d ensure we meet with family friends or cousins more so you have those peers to connect with.  If your friends persist in forcing you to hang out with them despite you voicing otherwise, I’d get involved with them at that point and tell them I don’t want them near you again. But ultimately it’s your journey which is why I am taking a very slow approach where I try to make you feel more in control (through activities etc). If there is therapy needed (depending on what’s going on), we can schedule that too. But ultimately I feel like all of this would occur due to feelings of helplessness / insecurity and I would want you to do more things so you can realize you’re good enough and don’t need other people who will only drag you down. We are social creatures but that doesn’t mean we surround ourselves with people who will only drag us down in life. Even if you’re a friend to someone, there’s only so much you “owe” them and if they aren’t working to improve themselves, it’s a two-way street - if they’re dragging you down THEYRE not being good friends and you are entitled to look after yourself and leave them.

(Also thank you for giving me an extension - and I’m sorry it took even longer than I thought - I was really busy this week and very exhausted and yeah idk I’m sorry and thanks <3)
Sent by Kindred7,Dec 5, 2021

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