Like Katie (my ex-gf) is just.. drifting away from me more and more with every day we don't talk, with every day that's passed since The End. And it's excruciating knowing she WANTS this. She wanted me out of her life - she didn't care enough to work on things despite how certain she'd been at one point that I was her one and only forever. And I guess I'm angry too - I'm angry that she led me on, that she led me to believe she wouldn't end things without it being a mutual decision and then she just breaks my heart and it's so easy for her, like she doesn't miss people (she told me this before) X.X
It's like, there's so many moments I just want to tell her about, to talk to her, to share with her, and I can't. I feel so lost...
I'm hurting so badly, and the only way I can seek solace at all is like... the fact that everything else in my life is suddenly SO GOOD. I'm in this amazing location now and I like my job and my roommates are really cool (and I'm so proud of myself that I came out to them) - I have so many opportunities. I just........... need to get out of this SAD, broken state of mind.
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hey move on it isn't worth hanging onto exes. nothing good ever comes out of it, since one of you is always stuck on the other. better to just cut ties completely
my long term boyfriend cheated on me this summer and after we broke up he was all i thought about for weeks. he's still in the back of my mind but slowly drifting away. staying busy with friends and work helps a lot, so keep doing what you're doing. better days are ahead of you :)
yeah, I know it'll get easier with time. but I think I have more trouble letting go than most people and I'm still very in love with her so... I will need a lot of time :(
i think i need to get ANGRY, to find reasons to dislike her, otherwise i'll never get over it (I mean I don't want to dislike her forever, I want to look back on the relationship and know how good it's been for me and how many positive changes it stirred in me), but right now i need to HATE her and it helps to think about how she like.......... really broke my trust
I think it’s okay to sometimes mourn a relationship, because you’ve lost someone and something that was valuable to you. I don’t think it’s necessary for you to become angry at her to be able to move on. Instead of ignoring how you feel, just embrace it, heartbreak sucks, even if someone has done you wrong, it doesn’t make you weak to acknowledge how you truly feel. Once you address that, moving on will be so much easier because it comes from a place of acceptance than rage.
Anas yeah I mean that's definitely where I'm at now. I'm embracing it but it's so painful ............ and I mean there's probably a part of me that's still in denial that will soon be triggered
I have to agree with Anas ... feel the pain, cry as much as you want and get as angry as you possibly can. Don't feel bad about it, cause after all the negative emotions the happiness you feel of moving on is gonna be the most amazing feeling. Hang in there! <3
Imagining Katie with someone else is like.. it feels like my stomach is getting ripped apart. I mean we were SO IN LOVE, like both of us had been in relationships before but neither of us had felt anything like this, like both of us pledged that we never wanted anyone else, that this was it. And I was just so happy, like incomparably happy, and she was too, but then like........... it just changed, and I don't even understand it x.x She has severe depression and she'd been unemployed for so long (as of 2 months after we got together) and she just slipped so deep into the depression and I was always there for her and everything and to me dealing with that was worth it... but her hope for our future faded and I guess her feelings for me changed and like. X___X it was like we slowly died out and it's so fucking painful
(just pmed someone this but I wanted to mention it here too)
take pride in the fact that you have the emotional capacity to still care about someone who meant so much to you... it’s truly bittersweet and it always will be in a way, but it will get better. It might hurt to think about the old times but the alternative is that you would’ve never had those times at all...Give yourself grace and time and do all the things you need to get your emotions out, and even more importantly the new things that put a smile on your face and happiness in your heart. Good luck!
Trust and believe that the best solution is cut them out of your life, it sounds really painful and it is but its amazing on the long run. Otherwise youre setting up yourself for expectations that person isnt EVER gonna meet and youre gonna break down no matter what you and her promised each other so just move on and be happy you gave everything and it wasnt mutual. Focus on you, your career/degree, your goals, your friends, your family because at the end that's always gonna be stuck with you. I wish you happiness gurl, im all ears if you wanna vent; at least you have great things going on for you that will ease the pain so you have no reason to stay in that situation
Aw i'm sorry to hear that. I sorta know how you feel because I had a guy ask me to be in a relationship with me. He said how he wanted to be with me forever. Then 2 weeks later he just told me he was breaking up with me because he wasn't sure if he had feelings for me at all. So we were only together for 2 weeks. But he was the one who asked me to be in a relationship with him first. And I liked him so i said yes. He should not have asked me to be in a relationship with him though if he didn't know if he would have feelings for me. He should have just told me that he wanted to start out as friends and see what happens. I was really hurt even though I had only known him for a month. Because i talked to him online for a few weeks and then spent time with him twice. But I just started getting strong feelings for him quickly so I was hurt. I am still upset about it even though he broke up with me back in June. But I am sure I will get over it with time. I guess i probably should not have gotten that upset about it since I didnt even know him for 6 months yet. But i really wanted to be with him forever. So i sorta know how you feel. And I hope that things get better for you in the next few months.
