As you may know, I found myself in a very unsettling relationship while I was a minor on this site. There are many different ways it could be classified, but what I’ve come to realize is that it resembled predatory/grooming behaviors.
I know I said I didn’t want to blog about my experience again, but I wanted to continue to use my voice for other potential victims. Also, I am hoping to amplify the voices and stories of anyone else who has fallen victim to a predator on this website.
I am creating a blog to help identify grooming before it goes too far using both research and hopefully insight from people who have been through it as well. I am no expert, which is why I am doing a lot of research and aim to hear from many other victims.
If you have been a victim of a child-predator / grooming on this website, please reach out to me. I have a survey to help pinpoint what tactics are commonly used on TG.com by predators. I will not be sharing any names or personal details, unless requested by the person telling the story, I just want to get additional input and insight into the research I have compiled. My end goal is to help compile stories/research to help prevent future traumatic experiences such as being groomed.
~Tengaged Advisory Council~
Also, I have been given the opportunity to sit on the Tengaged Advisory Council for this rotation. I can’t go into any details, but I do promise that I will do my best to help seek justice for any victims of grooming and predatory advances. Nobody deserves to go through that on an online gaming website.
I am in no means a moderator- if you suspect you are being groomed or have been a victim in the past, please reach out to BrandonPinzu, Koolness234, and/or CheapCheep. If you ever need someone to talk to regarding a scenario, my inbox is always open.
In past months, I have cleared my filters and now welcome any messages, complaints, or insights. The only type of content to result in a filter is going to be people who privately or publicly take the side of my groomer or victim shame me or anyone else who has shared a story of grooming. In full transparency, I only have 2 people filtered for personal reasons related to my grooming experience. I want my inbox to be a safe space for anyone who has run into attempts of grooming or a child predator.
~Use Your Voice~
To the Tengaged public, please don’t let people try to invalidate you or tell you your voice does not matter. It is ignorant for people to try to silence you on your trauma, even if they say they are just trying to troll. The moderation team is here to listen to your story and help you seek justice. Coming out about being a victim of grooming can be very tough, can take a personal toll on you, and can take a very long time to process. People may doubt and discredit you, but I promise the story you have deserves to be told and you deserve to find justice.
As a fellow victim, I hear you. I know what it feels like to be powerless in a situation and to be silenced for months. If you ever feel alone in your situation, I promise you will always at least have an ally in myself.
Please reach out if you are interested in assisting me in putting together my blog about grooming red flags so we can help prevent even more future grooming scenarios.
Make the site 18+ and you don’t have to worry about these issues anymore.
Yes, I know people will lie but if you put a disclaimer in the site when people sign up/sign in, it covers you. Just like adult sexual sites; yes people lie but it dissolves the owner of liability.