In the wake of new moderation and changes to be made for this site, I want to share a frustration that I have had with this website for at least the past 3 years. This is about my experience as a minor on this website and my relationship with k4r4k, who was 27/28 at the time.
I first met k4r4k in a rookies that ended on 9/14/2013. At this time, I was 16 years old and she was 27. Since it was a rookies, we had chatted and became allies: https://tengaged.com/game/100316
After that game, we became very close, much closer than a 27 year old should have ever been with a 16 year old. I ended our friendship near the end of 2014 due to her irrational jealousy, gaslighting, inappropriate sexual advances, and an overall feeling of discomfort. I shared the details of the relationship and how I felt I had fallen victim to predator behaviors in the Spring of 2020:
I encourage you to read that blog so you understand the context of this relationship. When I first blogged it, I had left her name off to respect privacy. However, I have recently added it in due to most people understanding who it was about and to validate the rumors.
I understand this was a long time ago. I am not bringing this relationship up for another top blog, I want to bring it up because of the years of frustration this has brought me and to send a message.
Despite the 10+ year age difference between myself and #K4r4k, to this day I still am told to my face & behind my back that me going public about this relationship was the wrong thing to do. Because of #K4r4k's popularity and desire to be loved by the public, my voice was not heard/respected.
In 2015, I made a blog where I publicly called out #K4r4k for spreading lies and rumors within our shared friend groups about me. Since I was still new to the site, many of the people I associated with came through her. In the blog, I hinted at controlling and manipulative behavior portrayed by her (She was 27 and I had just turned 17). Despite my accusations, many of my friends cut me off and sided with her due to her reputation. https://tengaged.com/blog/SmoothStalker12/6175103/lets-set-things-straight
In 2020, I made the "You Matter" blog while predators were being exposed on TG. This was the first time that I have ever publicly discussed the sexual nature of the relationship between the 28 year old and myself while I was 16/17. Despite sharing these details, I was told from several sources that she was getting praised and defended in a group game Viewers Lounge on skype:
People I considered to be my good friends were openly defending her. I had waited years to open up about my experience because of how gross it was and how upset I was with myself that I allowed it to happen. So seeing these responses in defense of her, I felt defeated.
In 2021, while more predators being exposed, I wanted to seek an internal resolution for myself. For the past 3-4 years, #K4r4k has been in the Most Loved section of the HoF. I know this means nothing, but to me, it is a representation of how the person who preyed on me faced no repercussions and maintained the reputation she cared so deeply about. So, I decided to reach out to mutual friends and ask them to remove her off of their friend list and sent a link to my blog. I understand it is petty, but seeing how many of my friends still had her on their friends list was upsetting, even after I talked to them privately about the matter. During this process, I received the following message:
And to me, this message was the breaking point. Me revealing the details of a toxic relationship between a 27/28 year old woman and a minor is more fishy than a that grown woman preying on a minor on this website?
#K4r4k would do everything she could to be seen as TG's sweetheart. However, some of the most vile interactions I have ever had in my life involved her. For example, there was another person who was victimized by the #K4r4k on Tengaged.es. The catch? #K4r4k was on a multi account, using a photo she found on social media, pretending to be a different person, and tricked her friend into dating her. He didn't want to date her so she made a fake account and pretended to be a different person so he would date her... This happened relatively near the same time that I fell victim to her. I cannot remember his age at the time, but even if he was 18+ that behavior is absolutely vile.
After my blog in 2020, #K4r4k knew what she did was wrong. She was still active on skype and logged in to clean out her blogs. She wiped clean any hint of flirtation toward me. She knew she had to cover her tracks because she knew she was in the wrong. However, there are still small glimpses that provide evidence into her romantic interests toward me while I was a minor:
So Tengaged, I am coming to you in a state of frustration and confusion. Does being one of the "most loved" and popular women on this website mean that you are void from facing consequences? We have seen many old, creepy men getting shunned and banned by the public which I full-heartedly support. But when I address my experience as a minor, #k4r4k remains untouched & unbanned while I am still being seen as the villain.
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K4r4k is an example of a wolf in sheep's clothing. She built up this loving persona to the majority of the Tengaged public, but underneath were traits and behaviors that resemble those of a predator. But I guess asking a minor for nudes and sexual messages is ok if you're a beloved woman on this website, right?
The chat you mentioned where people were calling her a queen KNOWING what she did was so fucking disgusting. It is really sad because I saw those same people blogging (one had a top blog!) about ilysweetheart or w/e the fuck his name was, yet when it's someone they like/is a popular user they defend them. Very unfortunate, and it's shitty that you have to put up with that. #istandwithcalvin
Hi Calvin, thank you for sharing this story, I can appreciate it must have been difficult.
I can assure you that once the mod panel becomes activated sometime this weekend, me and Aqua will review this report for you, and act appropriately. We just ask for you patients for a few days whilst everything is finalised x
God that’s honestly disgusting and made me uncomfortable. Sorry it happened to you, hope you’re ok. I do remember her being jealous of other girls you spoke to which was odd behaviour from someone her age.
I’m so sorry you had to deal with this at all, and for too long. Anyone who tries to defend or excuse her behavior should be ashamed. #istandwithcalvin
It really unnerves me that this occurred. "Sheep in wolf's clothing" is the perfect analogy as she always came across as extremely nice, sweet, and innocent. Sorry you had to experience this during such an impressionable time in your life. Just know you did nothing wrong :(
She logged back on Skype and started talking in a chat and I suggested she expand on this situation and she said something to the effect of “I don’t think I will.”
im so sorry you had to go through this, especially seeing all the messages of people defending her after you shared your experiences. you are brave <3 #istandwithcalvin
Honestly this breaks my heart she’s a disgusting human being and honestly the thought of her makes my skin crawl! smoothstalker12 you are so brave and I commend you for fighting the good fight and sticking up for what’s right!!! Very proud of you ♥️
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