Whenever people tell me they don’t bottom on dating apps I get into questioning them because whenever GAY MEN tell me they don’t bottom, insert that blonde girl & chalkboard meme where she tryna do the geometric math or whatever... that’s me.
All I hear when people tell me they don’t bottom is that they got a macho man persona, full of toxic masculinity & overall internalized homophobia. It’s literally always along these lines of reason.
I used to be like this once & not be keen on the idea of bottoming.
When homie told me “I don’t bottom” I called him out on his macho man shit & said “ohhh ur one of those gays who thinks he can’t bottom” he says “haha” - implying I’m right about that - then says “not that I don’t think I can I just don’t like it” so of course I’m like “what aspect of it? Because your prostate begs to differ, I know it” his response.... “the whole taking dick up the ass part” I shit you not. That is seriously his response... 🤦🏼♂️
It is sad how many gay men will view taking dick the same way homophobes do. I understand they steered that level of thinking but that is part of what’s sad.
Anyways, so my response is like “that’s literally what being gay entails??” He says “who says though? Why is it so bad that I wanna fuck but not get fucked” I told him it’s because of his macho mentality. I said “you’re gay yet you talk about anal like straights do. You don’t wanna do it because, I guess, it makes you feel more gay. You also feel like it’s the “bitch” role & you’re too macho huh? You don’t wanna be known or heard about being in the bitch role huh”
Dudes like this are so sad & WHY I always spark up this conversation whenever dudes try to come to me w/ that “I don’t bottom” bullshit. I’m VERSE like all gay people ARE whether they know it or like it or not, but I will legit never bottom for somebody that wouldn’t atleast let me, better yet, LIKE ME, to fuck them back. Nooo sir.
Anyways, dude was tryna cover up this being that facts that he didn’t want to bottom, without actually denying it or giving another reason to not liking it but I kept reminding him he already admitted he just doesn’t like the CONCEPT. As a gay man... imagine. Imagine being gay & not liking the concept of dick up the butt due to homophobes & macho straight guys talking shit about it. I told him I’m just trying to help him get over feeling embarrassed & emasculated by bottoming but he basically laughed that off & deflected like any macho gay who doesn’t care would.
The conversation ended when I told him AGAIN that he already admitted to just not liking the IDEA of it so he can stop tryna subside & his response was seriously like (tryna be sarcastic & shit) “oh now I see what you’re saying. In that same way then, for example, you don’t like the idea of sticking it in pussy... no deeper reason, just not into it” implying finally that he doesn’t have a legit reason (but he already told me it’s the whole concept that turns him off) but I was like wtfff lmfaooooo! I don’t like the idea of pussy because I’m gay & I didn’t choose to not like pussy! this niggah chose to not like dick up the butt automatically because he don’t like the idea of it in the first place sigh
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I think some people just like to be submissive and some people like to be dominant. Some of them may actually just like to be dominant, some of them might not be gay?
flamergamer8 I include that dominance in w/ “macho mentality” & “toxic masculinity” Tbh I don’t wanna have sex with anybody that just wants to dominate me unless it’s mutual & they’re not all like “you can’t top me” I get we all have a preferred role & a role we're better at/more comfortable with, but strictly tops always have that macho-ness about them. You don’t have to be super submissive to just lay there & take it. They just feel uncomfortable in that position because they feel macho & like they should be topping. They FEEL like “the bitch” to me that is gross
Skyler_TW Ya I get what you're saying. No matter what sexuality you are you will probably find people who want to be "strictly dominant". If they don't think they need to switch every once in awhile then at the end of the day it's just their loss. I mean there are also people out there that are "strictly submissive" and never want to be a top.
flamergamer8 They can top 90% of the time for all I care or vice versa... have away at your preferred role just don’t walk around acting like you can’t do the one because you’ll feel a type of way about it. They would like the feeling, they just don’t like the concept so they avoid it all together. Some even discriminate against bottoms because that makes them feel more heteronormative. It’s whack
