Yesterday I lost one of my bestfriends and an auntie to my kids. She was one of those friends that everyone in the world loved and my kids love her so much .
My problem is I've been up all night wondering how to tell them she's gone. I can not even say it without breaking and my kids have only lost my brother and they still ask me to see him :( I just don't know if I should tell them or say she moved and save them the heartbreak.
I'm genuinely asking for advice so if you have something ignorant to say it's not the day!
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I'm not too god in the advice department but sorry for your loss Jadine!
that is such a horrible dilemma, definitely get as much advice as you need but remember you are more than capable of making the decision, and both although tough are right option in their own manner. sorry for your loss :(
Oh my god I’m so sorry :( You can do whatever you want but what I would personally do is save them the heartbreak from when they’re older and get it on over with now… I feel like it’d be a little more risky if you don’t tell them sooner
i’m sorry for your loss babe, that’s never easy. i think you should tell them the truth because it wouldn’t be healthy to keep that bottled up and it would only hurt them later on if they found out you weren’t honest with them. love you ♥️
Honestly, I think you should tell them the truth. They will be hurt either way, its better they know and at least you are not lying to them (even if it is to save their emotions in the short term). Sorry for your loss.
I think telling them the truth is the way to go here. Kids are a lot smarter than we often give them credit for, and I’m sure through a nice good conversation, they’ll understand what you mean by someone being “gone.”
Jadine, I’m so sorry for your loss, though. I love you and you have so many friends here to support you 💛
Sorry that you're going through this... I don't think it's a bad thing to expose kids to death. It's something that has happened to or will happen to every living thing in existence. It can be really hard to deal with but we're all gonna need to learn!
Hi lovely. Sorry to hear you're going through this.
Have you contacted their school? They should be able to help you with this by offering the kids counselling and support.