I’m feeling so beyond sad and disappointed rn. WE are always taught not to be out on our own at night, or use public transport on our own, not to wear revealing clothes, not to get too drunk when our etc, as not to attract the wrong men? Why aren’t they taught not to attack women (or anyone vulnerable.) We are conditioned to the fear of weirdos following us etc, so we’re taught to text when we get home, or to stick with other women when predators are around.
They should be taught to leave us well alone if we do not know them 🙁
RIP Sarah Everard, a lady in London, UK, who even in the year of 2021 is publicly being victim shamed. A joke of the highest order :/ sadly I don’t know when these attitudes will change 🤦🏻♀️ or when I will feel safe out in the dark. It shouldn’t be like this. These monsters deserve the whole blame.
alexclow345 I remember having a similar conversation with someone a few years back, now they’re older but what they said, whilst shaming a female’s outfit on a game show is that ‘men can’t help it’...
I was effing speechless
Ugh. It’s so weird. I can say these are not things cis gender men even think of, I promise. Now, my friends and I talk about it often. It’s sad. At first I assumed they were concerned about me specifically since I live in a conservative state, but nope. It was a woman thing
No it’s not “boys will be boys” it’s “Serial Killers will be Serial Killers” it is best to avoid weirdos cause even though we have a great idea on what makes a serial killer we don’t have a system that rids society entirely of Serial Killers. Dennis Nileson killed in the UK what about David and Mary West? Or the most infamous Jack the Ripper. Sure people like Jack the Ripper and in the US Gary Ridgeway got away with murdering prostitutes but imagine if per say the sex workers just turned him down in the first place. Crazily enough that’s what he wanted he thought that them accepting him was them accepting death
I think there's definitely a difference on what should be expected of men in society. I think there's been a bit of a problem of generalization with this particular case, people going around saying that men aren't doing enough to help women and that's true but I don't think it has anything to do with this case?
You can't expect any man to stop a predator who has decided he wants to harm somebody like this police officer probably did. Men should be expected to stand up for women in situations of inappropriate comments and educate each other on these issues, I don't think any amount of educating could have stopped that monster from doing what he wanted to do, that's without considering the fact that most crimes are committed between people who know each other instead of just random attacks on the street, stories like these are not the norm, they're outliers, they're scary and they happen but I wish this amount of outrage was used in situations far more common like domestic abuse.
"Why aren’t they taught not to attack women (or anyone vulnerable.)"
I mean... I feel like most normal people are taught that...? Some people just don't follow those rules.
Despite all that, this is a horribly sad story, R.I.P. Sarah Everard.
@survivoroftheticans I never said they weren’t, but in society, women are given all these ‘rules’ we have to follow to stay safe, and a LOT of the time, excuses are made for men’s actions. Even things like sending unsolicited pictures, touching body parts when not invited to, we see as problematic, but society thinks are not a big deal. People die through this abs something needs to change. Of course I know that not ALL men would do anything so horrible
