But when I was a minor I cammed with a few different people that were over the age of 18. But I don't feel like I was preyed on in those cases. I feel like if anything I wanted it, and I know for a fact in some cases that I pursued it.
Like I get that the adult should KNOW better. But I have no "hard emotions" about what happened in the past. Like should I be feeling some type of way...?
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if they allowed it to happen they were definitely grooming you
What survivor8 said is facts. When I was underage I was in AOL chat room sexually chatting with old men who At the time I didn鈥檛 see anything wrong with it because I was asking for it. But today now that I鈥檓 grown I look back in disgust for the adults who took advantage of me at the time. It may just take time for you to realize what鈥檚 happening
bb5lover I just feel like with the people over 18, I never felt preyed upon and I still don't. But I am seeing all these blogs about people's past trauma and I am just wondering why I am not feeling a certain way I suppose
i'm sure it affected different people different ways! it's definitely wrong of the adult no matter what but you're not obligated to have traumatic feelings about it just because other people are. feel the way you feel about it & don't let other people change that <3 love you.
I think every case is very different. It depends on the relationship, the power dynamic, and how forced it felt. Obviously the adult should know better and shouldn鈥檛 engage, the minor is allowed to feel any way they want about it
it's not that the adults should know better it's that it's literally illegal to cam with a minor and punishable by jail time?? I feel like that's missing from this convo
yeah what i can say is that you're not obligated to feel any sort of way, but you need to fully grasp that, despite what you wanted and how hard you pushed, they were objectively morally fucked up for pursuing a sexual relationship with a minor in any form. they ARE predators and groomers, even if you don't feel like it impacted you for the worse
Things effect people differently and mindset can have alot to do with that , however your consent doesn't make there actions any less weird or problematic , then knowing better is the main problem really , I had a person who took advantage of s/a trauma I dealt with and how detached I was to sexual shit , who where older than me . I didn't feel like I'd been taken advantage of either because I consented , it took finding out that they still a good decade later do shit with 15-17 year olds for me to actually realise they where just a predator and I was another rung on the ladder :/ .
I think this blog is a bit disrespectful LittleMix, it's invalidating to those who were effected by it and make them question if their feelings are valid. You could have underlying trauma from it that might not be obvious to you and might never truly affect you but to some it can manifest in ways that are truly harmful and self destructive to them.
LittleMix you are sharing your experience on a very nuanced and sensitive subject matter. "But I don't feel like I was preyed on in those cases. I feel like if anything I wanted it, and I know for a fact in some cases that I pursued it." This a very strongly worded and probably doesn't come across the way you intend it to but it does come across as a bit invalidating. You don't need to be so rude to me in your comment, I was expressing my opinion about how your blog came across, and multiple other comments seem to point to the same thing that I saw when reading it.
LittleMix okay, I'm not going to fight with you, I was stating my opinion about how this came across as a little insensitive and you were aggressive and rude.
littlemix no you don鈥檛 have to feel any sort of way about anything. There is not right or wrong way to feel about it. Although be aware that if the adults knew you were minor and crammed with you, then they show no moral qualms about doing stuff like that with minors, and can still be a danger to minors still on the site
