I have been in a relationship since December 15th, 2020. Not a secret.
The fucking AUDACITY today that my aunt had to text me and tell me that I need to respect my father more because he adores me and because I have not 'come out' to him officially (DESPITE THE FACT IVE BEEN DATING A MAN OPENLY FOR OVER A YEAR) I am not giving him the chance to show his support to me.
So, despite it being not her place at all whatsoever to reach and out tell me how I need to express MY FUCKING SEXUALITY, I stayed calm and just acted confused and was like "he knows I'm gay and I know he loves me, like I'm confused??"
Then after her insisting on an explanation I had to explain to my aunt (who is a lesbian) that I have been in a relationship openly and I have not 'come out' officially to anyone. I have not done so because I do not believe in the coming out process as it only reinforces societal standards that it makes you an outcast and that it represents there is something wrong with you for being different against what society wants you to be.
Very calmly and straight to the point.
She really responded with 'you need to step out of your ways and put yourself in your fathers shoes'.
EXCUSE ME BITCH!?!?!
As a supposed role model figure in my life- how tf are you as a lgbt person going to tell ME to put myself in a straight persons shoes in a society that is in straight tinted glasses.
Fuck. Off. Fuck. You.
I've held the idea from the start- if you have questions for me, you can ask. But I'm not going out of my way to hold anyones hand over expressing myself and being happy.
Edit: After some conversations, she took one comment my dad made and blew it way out of proportion. Apparently legit one comment in a conversation they were having about all the 'kids' in the family and took it upon herself to have this conversation with me. Dad gets the pass this time. The sentiment of this blog still stands regardless.
I completely agree with you. I don’t like the expectation to come out. It should not be a big thing. You should be able to just casually say ur gay or date a man and have no one bat an eye.
that is so strange to me bc as an ace person who likes women i never did the whole coming out thing either??? like i find it more comfy to be casual abt it.
Yeah I agree. I never did a “coming out” but if people ask about my sexuality I don’t lie to them. Like maybe if people would just stop operating under the assumption that everyone is straight until told otherwise then we wouldn’t have situations like this.
Snails Yes literally that exactly. And thats why I dont believe in the generic coming out because it just reinforces the idea that everyone is just expected to be straight.
FromAWindow LMAOO dead ass... like everybody knew since I was a kid I was gay. Ive also like... brought this man to me to every family event and holiday so like... we think hes just a friend?? Really??
BigMamaT literally hate her already LOL. I dont even need to know more details, I got a solid idea of what she is like. And same... like if you have questions... I'll answer, as long as I feel comfortable answering it.
CheritaIsDelicious Agreed 100% especially coming from the same place as me in society. Like.. you have an understanding on this topic that people who aren't it, don't understand fully.
She should have taken the time to maybe explain where I was coming from in words that weren't mine to help if thats how she was feeling in the situation.. not the other way around.
