I need some kind of advice on here and yeah i know some will give legitimate, others won't i get that but i want a complete unbiased opinion on this topic. Okay guys, here it goes.
I am bisexual, i came out to about ten people while i was drunk off my ass at a party. And i had taken video of that so when i got to school I showed the video to people i trusted and stuff like that and I sort of let my drunk self come out. This isn't even relevant to my question but it's more of some context for it. Well i liked what i considered my closest guy friend, and i had catfished him sometime in November and it went nowhere. I tried to do it again sometime after I came out to him and I had almost catfished one of his friends but he found out. To get to the point I told him I was the catfisher and I had a crush on him. I apologized and stuff of that nature and he said it was no problem. Then I asked if he wanted any boundaries set since he knew how i felt, he said that wasn't necessary. It was awkward at first then it wasn't so I kept talking to him like nothing happened. Then I got a weird vibe from in about a month into after telling him and I asked him if anything was wrong with how I was talking to him and he told me no. Sometime after that I gave him money to go to a show with me and we went to that together, then I gave him a DVD of mine that I considered one of my prized possessions and let him borrow it. Then Three months after telling him I tried hitting on him while I was drunk. I apologized afterwards, he didn't answer. I then had felt he hated me as I had been skeptical for awhile so I deleted him off everything. Then I told him I was gonna distance myself and I blame myself for this and apologized. He said I was getting too attached and he was gonna distance himself. I asked when did you realize I was getting too attached. He said since I came out to him. So over these past three months, I gave him stuff, bought him stuff, told him some deep dark personal stuff and this whole time he didn't feel comfortable with me talking to him. And I wouldn't have been so mad if I never asked him if he was uncomfortable, BUT I DID MULTIPLE TIMES. So now I hate him with an unbridled passion and talking to my friends they believe I am in the wrong. Given it's biased because they know him and hes a people pleaser, the most inoffensive person I've ever known. So am I in the wrong for being mad and is he in part to blame for this? Am i fully to blame?
I know I made some bad mistakes along the line but I feel him leading me on to trusting him is the worst thing he ever could have done.
And I am not fabricating any of this because I am seeking an honest assessment of the situation, I am not exaggerating any part of this or trying to paint him to be the bad guy, this is how everything happened up until today.
Okay guys, I'm done. #Advice#Help
Fuck them all your in high school life will get better. You need to realize that your in high school to determine your future not anyone elses. It may suck now but pull through honey and once you graduate and move onto college you will have forgotten about him
You’re not fully in the wrong, just take this lesson with you in your future relationships. Setting boundaries is crucial, and if someone blurs the lines for you, it’s usually a good sign to stay away!
