FireX it's well known that Tara did it, but I have seen nothing to make me believe Mel did. When I was 13 I was preyed on by people who are still roaming the site, so I do understand your feelings of wanting her banned, and I'm sorry if you feel invalidated, I just find it hard to believe.
FireX, not at all, just because I feel like I got to know her on a personal level, and although you never really know anyone fully, I believe she was just jealous of Tara, and flirted with you to try and hurt her. I apologize if I am wrong, and I wish you luck on being able to recover from your struggles. I actually advocate for men's rights and am disgusted by the societal norm of how many people disregard abuse towards men. I just can't help but to empathize strongly with Mel still and I apologize again profusely if I am wrong.